I've been left by my very first boyfriend few days ago after one year. It was a very bad breakup, it was through the phone as we live in different countries and he has blocked me on every social network (for the second time, the first one was in October and he came back in February). What should I do to stop crying? lol
I'm not interested in getting drunk, dating new guys etc.
Most Helpful Guy
I'm sorry to hear that hun!!
Honestly you do need time to grieve of course. Your life will be different. You have this massive void in your life that he used to be. I guess first accepted that. I know you can move on. We've all have done it. I certainly have.
Missing him will happen. A song will come on and you'll just be like fuckkkkkkkkkkk why did that song have to play. That was her and I. Well him and I for you lol.
Honestly no contact helps and I definitely encourage that. Him blocking you will help. I know it sounds stupid. But day out and day in you won't have that constant reminder in your head if you were to talk to him. This way you can move on quicker then still talking to him you woukd have that constant reminder of ugh I wanna be with you but you don't wanna be with me. That sucks and best to avoid.
Each day it will get better. Take it one day at a time. Keep yourself busy. Go to movies with friends. Hang with them. Play sports or something. Dont sit inside and mob around all day cuz thats not good. Its ok to grieve but it has to stop at some point.
Also feel free to message me. It would nice to catch up plus I'm always willing to talk and help you 😊
Most Helpful Girl
Sorry to hear that. Breakups are so painful. You only move on when the pain starts to heal. It takes time to get used to someone not being part of your daily life anymore. After a breakup , you go through a similar grieving process as some who's loved one has died.
It's a case of getting through it , not over it. Go along with you emotions. Cry , if you need to. Tears are necessary , because they express how we feel when we just can't find the words to speak.
The only way to heal from the pain is to remove any traces of the person from your life. Don't sit reminiscing about what used to be , or dwell on what could've been. You need to keep your mind focused on things other than him. Try something new, motivate yourself to do things.
Time doesn't heal pain, it's what you do with your time that heals it. Eventually your memories will fade and pain will ease , but for now you have to just be patient with yourself , and believe you are strong enough to get through this. Hearts do heal, and they do love again1