The court order we had before was literally 50/50 one wk on one wk off. During the periods when my son was away, my ex refused to even let me talk to him and would not even discuss schools with me. So I took him back to court and have a more standard possesory schedule with child support. The judge saw through his lies and accusations. So after a yr of ignoring me after we meet up, he actually brings his wife. (I spent a year not being able to communicate with my then 4 yr old, because of my ex's anger).
So during our exchange (past the court order) he brought her along and she looked pissed. He begged me to remove child support saying that he has only been working a temp job and his wife is a temp. The thing is that these are 2 grown able body adults. I talked to him about my expectations of him for his son and while he was talking his wife honked the horn, yet he kept talking. I told him he'd better go bc she was impatient. I went over introduced my self to her and she looked at me like I she had an issue with me. Keep in mind, he hid her for well over a year.
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If you can support your own child, then remove your ex from child support. As long as he can take care of the child on his side then that's all that matters.
If your child does not appear to be taken care of when he/she is with their father and you have to take your child because of his lack of being a father, I would then add on the child support because you are doing more than your 50% share.
Child support is not suppose to be a tool to hurt someone with. It is suppose to support the cost of living for raising a child. If both of you can afford to provide for the child and it is a 50/50 split then you each support the child separately.