Ok so my ex and I broke up a few months ago after 11 years. And not to mention we have kids together. I fell in love with another man while we were still together (bad I know) but he was also distant and has cheated on me, our relationship wasn't the best but we loved each other and still do. Anyways even tho I'm in love with my new man I still find myself getting upset and crying over my ex sometimes. Especially after I found out he's doing all kinds of stuff with a new girl that he never put in time and effort to spend with me. Am I crazy for feeling this way, is it guilt, is cuz I obviously wasn't important enough to him anymore to spend time with, I honestly don't know but I don't wanna feel this way. I know im not in love with him at all obviously and dont want to get back together, it just wouldn't work out.
So please any advice will be helpful just hold up on the mean negative comments, I know I shouldn't have allowed myself to fall for another guy but it didn't get physical till after. And sometimes things just happen.
Most Helpful Guy
Details nitty gritty... From what i read this is a sticky predicament... Shit happens in life, (like you said) but he cheated and then you found someone else to love. Do you think it could be jealousy thats driving the tears? What else happened during the span of your relationship?1
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11 years is A LOT, and I think it's normal to still miss him because you guys went through a lot together and even formed a family. and I think it's also normal to feel jealous about the new woman in his life because you still care about him. What I think is useless is to try to understand why he's doing certain things with his new partner. Your relationship was unique and you both built it that way. Don't try to compare yourself to the new girl, it's pointless.
In time you'll build a stronger bond with the new guy you're with, or with anotherone, and you'll move on completely. Just give give yourself some more time :)2
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