It keeps me busy during the day so i don't have to think about my painful breakup. I've developed a cleaning rampage behavior instead. I don't think its bad, its the way I've been dealing with it... i mean I've detailed cleaned the kitchen,(pantry, cabinets, labeling, etc), living room, laundry room, organizing all Christmas decorations (and mother has a lot)(LIKE UGH) but I've managed to do all that. I've been able to take out boxes of things to donations, and bags full of trash, I don't know where all this comes from but i guess no-one really deep cleans like i do? Not to mention i live at home with Now I'm trying to clean out the attic and organize all the stuff up there. Is this behavior normal? Is it considered a healthy coping behavior?
Most Helpful Guy
Yeah I just like to do self improvement or be productive with my time. It's hard to feel too sorry for yourself when you feel yourself becoming more awesome. I think it's one of the more healthy coping behaviors because 1. You're doing a good thing. 2. You're being productive 3. You're doing character building and 4. All of this makes you look at yourself and make it hard to see yourself as being worthless which is how many people feel after a breakup.
Most Helpful Girl
As long as you're not doing anything that's gonna destroy you or others then I think that what you're doing is totally fine! In fact, it's a healthy way to cope.
I've always been an honor student but I remember after dealing with a bad breakup I would do even more studying. If a painful memory would randomly come to my mind, I'd probably think of it for a few then I'd go, "well, time to practice some math problems." Before u know it, I'd be so preoccupied with those math problems that the breakup would be the last thing on my brain. What was the outcome of me doing that to cope? Oh nothing, just better grades and a GPA boost. lol Bottom line is I think what ur doing is fine. I've also talk to my sister about it so I recommend talking to someone u can really trust. I wish u the best 🙂