I've been friend's with benefits with my male friend for years. I have dated other men. He hasn't actively dated anyone. He expressed earlier this year not wanting a relationship but remaining faithful to me (my sex?). I was cool with that then.
All of our school mutuals are dating, marrying, having children. I can't get older just being his f-buddy. Just recently he started to introduce me to his other friends/coworkers and do non sexual activities. I was surprised to see his friends already knew about me and welcomed me warmly.
Although I enjoy his company both in and out of bed I am under the impression that once men make a decision not to date you that's final. How do I let him know we are done and I need to mature into a serious relationship with someone... else?
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Ok... so you said **earlier this year** he was hating on the idea of a relationship... but **just recently** he "started to introduce [you] to his other friends/coworkers and do non sexual activities."
Which one came first?
I'm under the impression that "earlier this year" came before "just recently". In other words... he's softening his own stance on being in an actual relationship -- and perhaps even WANTS one, with YOU -- but doesn't feel comfortable actually expressing that idea.
I mean... if this was just sex, then it's unlikely he'd want to suddenly start going out and doing other stuff with you. And he DEFINITELY wouldn't have filled his friends and (especially) coworkers (!) in on it, if it were just sex.
In any case -- just tell him what you're thinking. The whole point of having fuck-buddies is that there are supposedly no emotions involved -- so, therefore, no one should be hurt when it ENDS, either.
Just explain exactly what you told us here. If it really *is* just sex to him -- which, again, I doubt -- then he won't really react. And if it's started to turn into something more, then, it will be good to get that all out in the open.0
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