I am a very shy person that's actually hesitant because I have been hurt a lot of times in the past. I try my best not to let my past control me, but sometimes I've noticed I've had tendencies that a guy may not understand because I react badly in certain situations. It may not make much sense, but I want to find a guy that has strengths I don't have, like a loving family background and an outgoing personality. I really want to grow and learn from that, but I wonder if that's possible? What's most difficult for me is just going with the flow. I only want to date if there's a potential for long term, but I wonder if that's asking too much. It's hard for me to think about dating just for the sake of dating and then just having it end. So any thoughts? Are there any outgoing guys willing to go out with a shy girl? Can they look beyond any shortcomings and appreciate them? I am willing to do my part in the relationship too, I'm not expecting someone just perfect to waltz into my life, but I'm wondering if someone like me would even be considered in the first place, and would they be willing to meet me halfway?
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You're asking for a lot! And you are likely to make things worse by trying too hard once you're in a relationship.
1) Obviously you want the opposite of you -- opposites attract. 2) You are probably going to have to date around to find mr. right. The probability of you finding a life partner the first time you go out is not high. 3) You need to relax a little and someone will meet you halfway. 4) Being shy is an attribute, but the world won't come to your doorstep the way you want it to.0