Things have been rocky for awhile and we have a one year old daughter together.
He hasn't contacted me in anyway since walking out. He has given me no explanation for it, no time frame, no certainty that this is it and we are over or anything. He just walked out yesterday right before lunch after a pretty calm argument -it was nothing compared to some of the arguments that we have had - and... that was it.
I don't know if I should call him. Or wait for him to get in contact with me or... something else.
He's been really angry and short with me for quite awhile. I don't think he is cheating but... people surprise you.
I do know that he is with his parents at the moment and his mother hates me with a fiery passion - so I imagine she's being delightful. (Ha!)
We've been in trouble for awhile and knowing that I can't force him to make an effort I've been putting in the hard yards. I've been organising time for us together away from our daughter, tried to reinvigorate our sex life and just loved on him more. I'm human so I'm not perfect and I get it wrong and get frustrated - but I've been trying amazingly hard to fix what I can in my end.
He's never said that there is anything major - or anything that he can't stand.
I am at a loss. Do I chase him... Or wait for him to come to me... I mean, assuming this isn't some silent precursor to divorce.
Most Helpful Guy
Hope for the best plan for the worst. That said what are these arguments about? Since that's the key to your problems you should investigate why these arguments are happening and ask if they are worth it. The number one problem with young people in relationships is that they argue over stupid shit and don't understand compromise or are willing to give up part of who they are to be part of the greater whole of the couple. So when a couple gets into an argument it better be over something important.
Most Helpful Girl
"I've been trying amazingly hard to fix what I can in my end."
If you've put in all the effort and have really tried, then in my opinion, the only reason it's working out is becuase he's probably not trying himself, or he's really hard to please.
I'm not sure what he's going through. I don't know what you guys argue about, and I'm trying to remain neutral here, but walking out was really not a good idea, nor is it a good sign on the standpoint of the marriage.
If he walked out, then he obviously needs and wants time to himself. So, I'd leave him alone and give him total control and power over what HE wants to do. Right now, he doesn't want to be around you. If you don't hear anything for a week, then I'd start worrying.
You sound like you really do deserve better since you sound like the only one to be fighting hard here.
Give him time.