Okay so I've been going out with this a guy for just under two months now, so not that long. However we've been really good friends for ages now (a year) and in that year sometimes we've got really close and considered going out, but I've always said no, and then it's been awkward for a while.
Beginning of this year we got really close again, and valentines day we kissed.
After talking with a friend who said that we should go out, I thought if I don't I'll never know what it could be like. So I asked him out and he said yes. It was really nice for the first few weeks, although I've always had my doubts. Although at times I did feel like I might be falling in love with him.
He's a really nice guy, a perfect boyfriend because he's really sweet and caring and always puts me first. In a way, he's too nice. It's because he's so nice and makes me feel secure that I guess I get strong feelings for him.
I guess I was attracted to him for a week or so. But for the last week I've been noticing loads of things about him, and they are all major turn off's for me, so basically I'm not attracted to him any more.
*he's really nice, great personality, but kinda boring
*I'm not attracted to him
*There's no chemistry if I'm honest
*He's told me he's head over heels in love with me
*He's spent £80 on me for my birthday
Till now I haven't exactly discouraged him, because I have really wanted this relationship to work. But now I'm just not sure. Should I break up with him?
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ok. so from a personal stand point I think you and him should sit down and have a disscussion together. Maybe not nessacarily a break up disscussion either because to me it doesn't quiet sound like you are exactly sure you want to break up with him yet. Making the dision to break up with him now may lead to some major regrets if you are not absolutley positive you want to break up yet. Disscuss with him how you have felt oer this past week and also tell him how you have felt for him over the past entire year, tell him about the lack of attraction you have had and how you feel that he make act a little to nice for your taste. Who knows? Maybe you'll discover somethings that he's feeling and maybe not shareing too. Or maybe you'll discover a side of him he was to timid to share with you until you talk with him about this feeling you having. then after the disscussion I would give it sometime and hopefully it works out and if you still feel this way try your best to come to a muatual agreement with him and try and stay as close as friends as you can. Al though you probably would not be as close as before and maybe a little akward at times but you will eventually overcome that obsitcal. If he is as great a guy you say he is everything will work itself out in a peaceful way and you will both either find someone new or continue on with each other. I give you my best wishes and hope everything works out for the better for.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE