Ex is knocking on my door?

Cheating, pathetic bastard is now knocking on my door leaving chocolates and flowers not to mention daily voicemails. Claiming he just wants to talk and apologize. I mean... for what? After all this time... "he's just apologizing because his little girlfriend and him didn't work out and now he wants someone to lay over with. What good would come from it if i talk to him? Im afraid of reopening a wound... God knows I've tried to move on and I'm fin ally feeling like myself.

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I don't hate him or hold resentment but I'm at new place in my life where i just honestly don't care to give him the time of day to meet up and talk. Just thinking about it, twists my stomach into a knot. I just want him out of my life for good.

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  • When Will Guys Like Your Ex Ever Learn?

    DO NOT allow him back into your life, otherwise he may just use and take advantage of you as a rebound and/or take you for granted.

    He should have been upfront and honest and split with you in the very first place instead of doing what he did behind your back and thought he could actually get away without you ever noticing or finding out about it! And then he got himself where he currently is now, realizing how fucking bad that he had fucked up.

    If he continues to harass you and stalk you, get an attorney and file a restraining order against him or something. If possible move to a different apartment or location so he can't keep bothering you over and over again.

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  • hey there, i feel for you, trust your instincts they are correct. you are starting to feel yourself, that gives you strength that once he ripped away from you. his desire to talk and apologize does nothing for you at all, apart from put you in a vunerable position you know you shouldn't be in. these types of men can keep this shit up for ages, mine is now 9 months, he goes from lovey dovey, sexual, evil spitefull so be prepared he may do that. threaten to call the police if he is coming around to your house, and i suggest an app to block his calls, he's fucked up and his best easy option is you, he may be genuinely sorry he lost you but tough shit, he may also start to blame you, you should look into harassment laws in your country right from now and keep evidence. uk is pretty good now even a few texts is enough just incase this develops further xx good luck stay strong no contact no contact no contact xx

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    • Thanks for the advice and yes i choose to stay away from him. I will not go back to that dark place he left me when he decided to cheat and leave me with the mess. He doesn't deserve me! I've blocked his number but he calls me from unknown/restricted numbers and leaves pathetic voicemails.

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    • I kinda feel like venting... I feel lost.

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  • This is bordering harassment, trespassing, and stalking. If it does not stop and keeps progressing I would involve your local authorities. This is no light matter, I've heard some stories.

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    • Dude shut up. The guy is giving chocolates and trying to say sorry. How in the hell is saying sorry harassment or stalking?

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    • @bvictor If he was harassing me or stalking me i would contact the police asap instead of blogging about it. #Commonsense. Im choosing to ignore him... i don't want to hear what he has to say. More lies. I've moved on from that... I'm finally in a good place. Thanks for the advice.

    • @molls you've just confirmed what i was saying. Thank you. I hate it when people get on these forums with insinuations acting like they know what they are talking about. I try to talk to the facts at hand. And no where in your statement did you EVER say you were being harassed. But people read into things that aren't there. And that pisses me off. But yes if you feel that all he is going to feed you is lies then ultimately you need to take care of you first. But try not to hold resentment because that can eat away at you as well.

  • No one says you have to open wounds and let him back in. But hating him isn't going to do you justice either. I think you should open a dialog with him. Not one with open arms. Let him no how badly he fucked up and what it means to you. Try to come to terms. Let him know that he is going to have to try very hard to earn your trust back. And if he doesn't want to come to your terms that let him know he is not worth it and move on. Ultimately you need to turn that hate and resentment into forgiveness. People mistakenly think forgiveness is a second chance for others when really its a second chance for yourself.

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  • Ignore him! Block his number and get a restraining order.

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What Girls Said 2

  • You hit it right on the nail. Now that it's not working out with his girlfriend he wants to know if he still has that option. No good would come of it. would you let someone shit outside your door and keep letting them shit outside your door, even though that brought you chocolate and tell you they are sorry? He pretty much took a huge shit (cheating) infront of your door. Don't let people shit inside or outside of your house ( figuratively)

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  • Then don't

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