Should I tell my lover that my husband and I are divorcing?

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About 6 months my husband and I agreed that a divorce is a something we both want. We have no kids, decided to split everything 50/50.
We still live together but haven't had sex in over a year. We treat each other as friends, go to dinner once a week but at this point live separate lives.
About 3 months ago I have started seeing this man I met through work. We have been seeing each other casually. He knows that I'm married but never made a comment about it until last week.
We were talking and he said that he would love to be exclusive if things were different. At that point I felt like telling him about my impeding divorce but backed off.
I want him to know but wonder what would be the best way to bring it up? When would be the best time to bring it up?
By the way, I have only confided with 2 friends and my lawyer.
Should I tell my lover that my husband and I are divorcing?
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