We still live together but haven't had sex in over a year. We treat each other as friends, go to dinner once a week but at this point live separate lives.
About 3 months ago I have started seeing this man I met through work. We have been seeing each other casually. He knows that I'm married but never made a comment about it until last week.
We were talking and he said that he would love to be exclusive if things were different. At that point I felt like telling him about my impeding divorce but backed off.
I want him to know but wonder what would be the best way to bring it up? When would be the best time to bring it up?
By the way, I have only confided with 2 friends and my lawyer.
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Your lives are not really separate as long as you live together. A lot of people say they are going to get a divorce to those they start a relationship with and don't. If you started the divore, show him the papers when you tell him. They have the date the marriage ends and that it is signed by both of you. Also, you can't keep living with your husband and expect men to like it. Just by moving out, you or your husband, you at least show your new guy you are serious. If you can't afford to, then you are telling the guy you will stay there until you find a guy you can move in with. Not fair to the guy. Ask yourself if you would like things if your situation was reversed. Would you like it? Would you accept it? Just saying you are not sleeping with your husband deoesn't mean you really don't. I'm not saying you are lying, just what the other person may wonder. Confide in your doctor, friends and attorneys can't do what a professional can do. You want fixes, not guesses, regardless of how much you trust your friend and attorney. Good luck! Anxiety can be awfully debilitating. and cloud judgement.
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