We dated for three years and she THINKS I had an affair with a girl at work because she saw a flirtatious text message on my phone. The truth is it was pretty much a joke. We have had our problems but this was the "straw that broke the camels back". When she tried to talk to me about it I just left because I didn't want to suffer the pain of her "interrogation". She says my leaving and not talking about it was an admission of guilt. It's been two months now and she used to respond to my texts saying "it's over, move on". Now she won't respond at all. The last text I received from her was she hates me for what I did and said she is starting to see other people. I know she said that so I will leave her alone. Any advice from women will be appreciated.
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You don't say what you want from her. Do you just want her to acknowledge you or do you want more from her?
For a second just reverse the situation and ask yourself an honest question - if she had received a sexy text message from someone you didn't know how would you have felt about it and taken it? Would you have wanted her to explain it to you? If you asked her about it and she got angry and walked away from you what would you have thought? How could you/would you have responded to that?
She may have been wrong doubting you but you sort of shut the door on her feelings too. Trust me I'm no expert in relationships but it seems to me that you two were slightly miss-communicating before you split up and the current situation is just an extension to this.
The way it stands now I think she will probably carry on ignoring you unless you do something pretty radical. Why do you want to speak to her? If you want her back than go and see her and don't rely on text messages - take a chance and tell her how you feel - at this point you have nothing to loose - see what her reaction is. If you don't want her back then you may as well just leave it be and move on as she suggests. Good luck what ever way you choose...1