I treated my ex terribly. Never fully committed to her and took advantage. I broke her heart when I left her for an ex but I'm realizing it's a huge mistake. Let's call her Julie.. Julie always has my back. If I were her, I'd hate me, but she doesn't. I called her the other day after going NC for a month and I vented to her about life. I told her about a debt I owe and how I may not go to school this semester. She called back the next day and said "I still care for u, don't want u not in school, I will loan u x amount of money and pay me back when u can." she's so amazing. She has my back more than my own family. It got me thinking about when I was depressed and she use to be there when no one else was. It made me feel so guilty and is making me realize I made a mistake. Julie was just too good for me. Too smart, too pretty, too caring etc. I left her for an ex that's less attractive, doesn't care about me etc. I'm realizing I was just scared to be with Julie so I treated her like crap. She told me she doesn't hate me, but we'll never he friends because I hurt her too much (I did). I text her every other day, and she takes lonnnnng to reply and seems indifferent. I could tell she's moved on. I'd give anything to start over with her but I don't know. Everytime im around my girlfriend, I just think of Julie. I have changed my player/asshole ways.. What are some ways I can show her that? Anybody ever took an ex back that treated them horribly?
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Normally I lead with, leave her alone.. she's moved on from you, and you really hurt her, so respect her feelings and let her go. It's hard to forget those things even if you still care for someone. But to help you in case there might be a chance, build yourself back up first and give her a reason to think that you're actually worth the time now. You also need to break up with your girlfriend if you don't want to be with her because that's not fair to her either. Take some time and work on yourself first. Go to school, figure your shit out, then come back and be like "this is the man I am now, I've changed, and a lot of it was thanks to you. If you would be open to it, please let me show you how I should have treated you when we were together." Or something like that. But right now you're not at the point where you can even offer her anything for her to want to take you back for.