umm.. hi. so. I'm Shane. I'm from Ireland. good to met ya'. I met a girl in march on g+. Amy. from the Netherlands. beautiful sweet and kind etc... we dated for months. she cheated. I forgave her. as it turns out this wasn't the "pressured to send a tit pic" she said at first but the guy got a collection of nudes. then three months later she cheated. I forgave her. he was 21 and she was 12. she told me she didn't love me and we became friends with benefits. this didn't work out because she kept baiting me with love etc... then she got angry at her home life, blamed me and blocked me. I tried EVERYTHING to get her back. I even threatened to send people her nudes. she came back, realised I couldnt after a few days then left forever. this was the start of July. I fell into a deep depression that I'm still in. I don't want to live in this world. I got another girlfriend, this one in America. I like her but I'd still go back to Amy, and disgustingly still message her, to at least talk to me. im suicidal and convinced I'm worthless. Amy has a screwed up life at home. I wanted to help make her happy. and I'm the villain? I'm unable to talk to girls in real life. I have aspergers. I'm a nerd and not very attractive, and there's nobody to meet here anyway.
Most Helpful Girl
Love, you are 15. Please, please, please do not end your life. If she is 12 and sending photos without her clothes on to adults, I think she is the one with issues. You shouldn't have threatened her to make her stay, but her issues are not your fault. You have so much time ahead of you. There are billions of other girls. Do not terminate your life because of just one. I understand that you feel alone and worthless. I have also felt that way at certain points in my life. If it gets really bad, please go see a therapist. I have seen a few, and they have made me feel so much better about myself. But what you need to do are things that make you happy, to contribute to the world, that give you a feeling of worth and purpose. Pick up a hobby or join a club. Something where you can interact with real people. But I guess I am a bit of a hypocrite. I spend my time outside of university working on cars, reading, and playing video games. These are all things that are done without other people, as I have very few real friends. That used to make me sad, but I realized that I just need to be open, kind, and honest, and people will see me as someone who they can be friends with. This will work for you too love. Just remember, this is not the end of the world. It may feel like it, but I promise that there is more to life than this pain. This too shall pass. Good luck. :-)2
Most Helpful Guy
Our level of happiness doesn't come from what happens to us, it comes from how we react to what happens to us.
Because you're depressed you're not going to hear any advice we have to give, so save this advice for when you're already feeling better. Because you're like a drunk who's trying to drive... you shouldn't.
You're depressed, you shouldn't be making life decisions or even thinking about things that matter. How you FEEL will blind you from the truth of your situation.
But I'll give my advice anyways...
Feelings aren't facts.
How you feel isn't reality. Feelings come from the emotional lizard brain we have... it's emotional and instinctual. It's not logical or even appropriate most of the time. It's just reactionary. Someone rejects us, or we think we've been rejected, we feel terrible. It's perfectly healthy and normal!
Since I'm not in your scenario it's super easy for me to say this... her cheating on you is the best thing she could have done. Why? Because it exposes who she is at her core... selfish and insecure and an asshole.
The real problem is that you seem to think so poorly about yourself that you think you deserve to be with someone who's an asshole to you.
So she's being honest.. she's saying "I'm a cheater" and you're saying "I forgive you , it's okay" which is also you saying "I deserve to be with an asshole because I'm a loser" ... and so why would she want to be with a guy who's willing to date an asshole? She's not.
So the core issue is you, and how you see yourself.
Because we would never let someone treat us worst than we already are willing to treat ourselves.
If you want a new wonderful girlfriend you must first seek help with the depression (doctor, therapy, conversation with friends, loving self talk) and THEN you can start to rebuild how you TALK to yourself.
Your relationship with YOU is what determines what women you'll attract into your life. That's the foundations of self esteem and confidence... not what others think of you... but what YOU think of you.
You know you're a sweet guy with a huge heart.. you just need to remind yourself of that. Focus on your strengths, your inner pride, and your life skills. Build yourself. Focus on yourself. And stop chasing girls as a way of having self esteem.
It's called becoming a man because of how you domestic yourself... not because of what women are in your life.
I hope this helps,
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