I just read what is was all about. So nothing was signaling him wanting to have sex with your mom except may be when he said he finds her attractive. But if he accepts that he said it then It all sound like a misunderstanding. If he says that he never said such thing then it would make things doubtful. Anybody can find someone attractive and appreciating someone is pretty normal. It's hard to say what could be the intentions but nothing sounds concrete here. You should probably mediate the whole condition between them. So only one point to notice which can answer your question. Still nothing has happened to ruin any relationship.
I broke up with my partner
Because I've been having doubts about the relationship since this which caused us to argue a lot... so I just called it quits
He said he didn't say anything like that to her he was talking about me
I am sorry for that. I hope things get better for you soon enough. It was a hard situation u were put into. Not trusting our family is always tough... specially loving mothers. Try to be positive for future and have a good life ahead.
He still wants to be with me though so its kind of a hard one I had to get Avo out on him
Lets be clear here about scenarios... first scenario is that he didn't have any wrong intentions and your mom misread the whole situation. Second one is that he might have had thought about it for a second when we was alone with your mom but didn't really follow through. Danger zone. So in either conditions you can still save everything by mediate the whole thing. You might need to be a little bit manipulative to make your mom understand that she misread it. So by hook and crook make her believe. I can't say anything for sure. But it's better to give the benefit of doubt to saving the relationship. Even if he thought anything wrong he won't dare to repeat that mistake again. So it's your decision. Decide calmly.
No he said he had no intentions of hooking up with her or anything he said he didn't say anything like that about her he was talking about me... she is the one who said he said she was attractive even though she also said he was talkungvabout me
that's the only point which creates all that uncertainty. That's why I told you to be smart and set it right. He's already on his KNEES.. lol... so he's not going anywhere. You just need to find the right words to make your mother understand the whole situation from a different perspective. Whatever she has said to you... word to word... you need to make it meaningful in a certain way that it wouldn't make him look guilty. "Avo" seriously? Girl you and your mother... lol
Yeah I know I was a bit harsh but the arguing got to me
I feel heaps bad about it
I need to talk to his mum but it's really early in the morning
Stop feeling sorry dear and work towards making things better. Whatever the outcome would be at least don't give up without giving it a last shot. Don't drop the Avo yet, just in case if things don't turn out the way you intend to.
why his mom?
yeah tell me about early morning... it's 1:56 am here.. lol
Lol it's 6:30 here where u from
I just need to speak to her about him. I can't call him at the moment I blocked my number from calling him so he can't contact me either
oh... that's the new one.. blocking your own number to call someone... never thought anyone would need to do that... i thought we just need to block other people from calling us..I am from a teeny tiny country called India. It's normal time for me to stay awake.
Yeah well u know what I mean
Anyways... it feels like i almost had a whole conversation with you not just commented on your post. lol. I am gonna go to bed. Good luck. bye.
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I think that I believe my mum in the outcome but I just didn't want to. If that makes sense. But I wanted an opinion anyways always helps I guess
Go for your mom
Yeah I think so... did u read my reply of what's it about on the other comment?
Sorry, go for the guy. I don't think she is right.
Thank you for the MHO. :)
Well she said that my partner wanted to have sex with her in his mind.. because he went over there to do some jobs for her then when she arrived home he was still working and he asked Yong's a shower and came out in his towel to grab his clothes and said sorry. Also he was talking about me and how much he loves etc. But amongst that he apparently said that he finds my mum attractive. And he said that he said nothing about her he was talking about me and he reckons she was walking away from him when he was talking to her.
based on that story it doesn't really sound like your boyfriend made a move on your mom or insinuated he wanted sex-he was working-he was working when she got home-hot he asked to take a shower-as most people do he put on a towel when he got outbut what we think is kind of irrelevant... who do you believe?
Well I don't know... I mean when I got angry at my partner about what my mum said he was like down on his knees in tears. Saying that he was talking about me?
But then when I stayed with my partner because I didn't k of who to believe my mum just stopped talking to me...
hmmm... did he seem guilty like he had done something wrong or was just upset at the threat of losing you
I think he was upset about losing me. He has said a few times that he would never do anything Luke that to jeopardize our relationship
in the past has either person given you reason to question their honesty?
is your mother a narcissist?
@Sabretooth I'm not sure what a narcissist is
Well I think maybe my mum was paranoid... and she has stopped talking to me before for no reason
No my partner is pretty straight forward
And my mum has lied to me before about another situation
yeah. to me it sounds like perhaps your mother read into things or confused things, and that's giving her the benefit of a doubti'd say probably 90% if not far more of bf's are not going to come on to their partner's mother. especially not in a way is so easily going to get back to you
True I thought so... I've told some friends and they think it's a joke how she's acting. But I spoke to a friend last night and she reckons my mum wouldn't lie about something like that
you think you perfect and that everyone else is just jealous. the definition of a narcissist is: personality disorder is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others. But behind this mask of ultraconfidence lies a fragile self-esteem that's vulnerable to the slightest criticism.
@Sabretooth OK maybe... I'm not sure if she has a mental illness but I know she takes medication for I think depression so yeah !! Not sure but thankyou
no problem. in truth, however, i'm not sure i would classify narcissism as a ''mental illness'', however.
@Sabretooth all good she's a great lady I think she has just done it tough
@Sabretooth what dies that mean
means i don't understand your reply.
@Sabretooth OK don't worry about it... alls I think is that my mother over reacted and I don't think my partner is that type of guy because I k of how much he loves me and is scared to lose me but he has lost me
you mean hasn't?
@Sabretooth he has lost me
@Sabretooth are u saying that I think I'm perfect and everyone else is jealous is that what u think I think
@Sabretooth to much arguing
no,. i asked you if you thought your mother was narcissist, you said you didn't know what a narcissist was, so i explained it to you.
@Sabretooth yeah I realise I don't think she is... maybe a bit jealous yeah