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I understand it is really frustrating when we feel we have laid it all on the line for someone and they then don't appreciate it. At * all.
What's really happened, however, is quite simple. You started keeping score, meaning that somewhere in your mind, you think he owes you something because of what you have given him. This is not how humans work. We are taught to believe it is, I know I was: "be nice to people and they will respond in kind."
I was told to be polite and considerate and it always seemed strange to me when I observed so many unhappy people who just seemed to play by these rules. Meanwhile, I knew many happy people who seemed to use a different paradigm.
The reality is: you don't owe anybody anything. Nor does he, or anybody, owe you anything. You didn't get a diploma saying "Mr. X's undying love hereby earned" , ever. Love is not something you are owed, it's something you give, freely, without agenda. If you do, you will get it back in spades.
I encourage you to enjoy having given what you did, really think of all the positive impact you caused, and you did. Even if it seems to have not taken hold, it did make a difference.
And your job is to let go, and completely. What isn't there, isn't there. You cannot ever change, or force anything, including love.
Just let him go and practice giving without agenda.
I hope this gives you a bit of solace.1