- I usually return
- I usually don't
Most Helpful Girl
Nah. When I was little I was told that you shouldn't give back or give away a gift.
I suppose if I broke up with someone and they asked for it back then it'd be different.
When I was with my ex he gave me 3 things - A bracelet he'd got his friend to make for me, a loom band bracelet that he'd presumably made himself, and a pink plush toy mouse.
During our first upset when he basically said in so many words that he was thinking of cheating on me, I got very upset/pissed of and threw out the bracelet he'd got his friend to make for me the next morning, even after he'd apologised and changed his mind about it. I decided to keep the loom band bracelet though, since he'd made it (didn't have the mouse at the time by the way in case you're wondering about that). I should have broke up with the guy there and then but my friend encouraged me to stay with him. Anyways, guy did end up cheating on me so I threw out the loom band bracelet & gave the toy mouse to my mum and told her to give it to my little cousin (though I'm still not sure if she actually did or just threw it out).
My current boyfriend and I used to be best friends before we started going out and promised to go back to being friends if things didn't work out between us. He is very sweet and all but he never puts in enough effort to our relationship or show much eagerness to see me which has really eaten away at me and made me depressed though he always reassures me he loves me, is not good at showing his feelings and feels bad whenever he upsets me.
His lack of effort has taken a toll on our relationship and I am considering breaking up if things don't change soon as it is making me lose (and have already lost) a lot of interest. He knows what's wrong so hopefully we can work things out before resorting to breaking up, but maybe I am just watering a dead flower here.
Should we break up and go back to being friends, I will put the necklace he gave me away in my jewellery box, out of sight. I will maybe put the cat mug he gave me out the way too along with a letter he once write me (which I had to ask for), the peep show DVDs he got me will go in the living room, out of my room, and any little kinder egg toys he gave me/swaped with me (we're both childish) will be put in a box along with other kinder egg toys to give to my little cousins.
Basically, I'd just put them out of my way so as not to have reminders. Why not throw them away? Well if we ended on good terms, it would feel mean to simply chuck them.1
Most Helpful Guy
I would return them. I don't see a reason why I should keep them. I don't want to be reminded when I look at the gifts.2