From what I've seen, guys say at first that they want to be friends then just cut all contact or just cut contact straight away. How would you react when the relationship is over?
- Yes, I would like to stay friendsVote A
- No, I wouldn't like to stay friendsVote B
- Depends on the how the relationship endedVote C
Most Helpful Guy
Like many things, in my opinion, it would depend on the situation. If the relationship ended well, without harsh feelings involved, then remaining friends afterwards is easy and simple. I’ve done it several times in my experience. Yet, if the relationship ends sourly, then that’s not really conducive to remaining friends, because there will always be tension between the two individuals as I have also experienced in past relationships.
In general, I don’t mind remaining friends with those I’ve separated from, especially if it ended on good terms. I mean, why not remain friends. Just because you don’t want to be a couple anymore is no reason not to remain cordial to each other; you shared so much together already, it just makes sense to keep it civil and remain there for each other. I have to admit that some of my fondest friendships developed from being a couple with someone, deciding together it wasn’t going to work as a couple, and just stepped back to being friends.
In an ideal world, I feel that’s how it should be. Two people coming together and make it mutual they know it won’t work, but remain friends instead. They already know so much about you since you were intimate together, it makes it even easy to be there for each other as friends in the end. And if that makes you both happy, so much the better. That’s my bottom line.
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Most Helpful Girl
I would never remain friends with an ex
If i still loved him , i couldn't have contact with him. That would be far too painful. Especially when he eventually meets someone new, because watching someone you love... loving someone else would be so unbearable
If i had no feelings for him then i wouldn't want to have contact with him, because it would bring too much drama into my life, and just complicate future relationships. I would view it as disrespectful towards my new SO ( if i had one) I would never put him in that uncomfortable position1