Hi about a month and a half ago my now ex boyfriend and I had a huge fight. I want to travel and he doesn't. He just started getting angry and I had enough. He always picks fights with me so I said if your not happy get out. He said its not like that. So I said I want to move forward and move on and you don't even know if you like me. So just get out and leave. Well he never responded for 3 days so finally I was like whats up. End of the day he sent me a big long text saying he was sorry and he was done. I told him I hated him and how could he do this. He just stopped responding. Broke up with me over a text. So a couple days later I sent a closure letter. He sent one back immediately. Said how great I was and nothing negative and that we want 2 different things. Said he still missed me and has been sick all week from the stress. Said he hoped we can still be friends and when time passes have a coffee. I never replied. A month passed and I sent him a text as I am going to South Africa by myself for a month and that is where he is from so just wanted some clarification on some stuff. I asked how he was doing and he said he was just okay. Wrote a big long essay on helpful stuff for south africa. I never told him I was going to Africa about this and seemed like he already knew. He told me to be safe as he still worries about me and if I run into any problems to contact him and his family would help me. Are conversation ended there. Its now been 3 weeks since then. Is he confused? Can I still be friends? I know I deserve better.
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He's grieving the loss of your relationship even though he knows it's for the best. Remaining friends is possible but not at this point. You both need time to completely get over each other and move on with your lives so no contact is best and right now that's not happening (one of you keeps texting for one reason or another which opens up the communication and the feelings resurface). Give it 6mths or a year with no contact at all, then see.0