how did it happen? feel free to answer anon. I'd like to see how many women here have done it and what the story was
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I had an emotional affair after being married 20+ years. I call it "emotional" because we never had sex but hugged, kissed, touched and shared many talks and emails.
I met the guy at work & we were co-workers for over three years & really didn't talk much to each other. Then, my office got moved closer to his & we became friends. It started when I sent him a very innocent email about some astronomy event that was going to happen in our area as I thought he'd be interested. (I sent it to other co-workers too). That lead to more emails that were joking but a little flirty on his part. Then, we started telling each other (via email) about our lives as well as talking more at work. Then he asked me how I knew my husband "was the one" & I was honest & told him that he needed to ask someone else since our marriage wasn't so great. He then confided his relationship wasn't so good either. That lead to us trying to help each other out in our current relationships. It was definitely innocent in the intent to talk to someone of the opposite sex to get their thoughts & to help each other. But, at the same time, I had a crush on him for many years but never thought anything of it since he is 12 years younger than me. I have kids & he doesn't. So, what guy would ever go for that? I never expected anything physical to happen but loved his company and I loved talking to him. Our "helping each other out" led to a hug one day after a 2 hour period of pouring our hearts out to each other. Then that lead to a kiss a week later. We then started meeting for lunches. The affair lasted only 3 mo & we mutually ended when we realized what we had gotten ourselves into & had a lot of guilt about that. It kind of snowballed & I never ever thought I would cheat. Even though my husband has been abusive, I never thought I could be a cheater.
That being said, I can also say I fell in love with the guy I had the affair with. I still love him & always will.1