thank you very much for your help! but what can i text her tomorrow? i won't get friendzoned lol
You're welcome!!! I would text her, "I know you're going through a rough time, so I just want you to know that you are so incredibly strong and beautiful. And if there is anything you need, or anything I can, I am here for you."
If she is anything like me or the other women I know, that will melt her heart!!! It may take a little bit for her to start developing feelings for you so just give her time. But saying something like that will kind of take down her wall with you 😊
This is very helpful again! thanks:) Well I think she might like me back, maybe she can get even fall in love with me if I tell her what you told me to say?:) I'm good looing as well so. Do you think she can hang out or she might be sensitive now?
You're very welcome! I think anything is possible! I fell in love with my husband and he fell in love with me just 3 days after we began talking, and we met online!! Haha I think you could offer to take her out for coffee or breakfast 😊 It might help her get her mind off of things!
Haha that's cute, glad you guys found each other:) Anyways, do you think it can be okay if I talk about how her divorce is coming or going? or it might seem too greedy lol it will be through text
Thank you!! I wouldn't, I would just ask her "Do you want to talk about the divorce or no?" And if she says no I would not push further. You just have to remember she is very vulnerable right now and you really don't want to fuck up. If she doesn't want to talk about it, asking her about it further will most likely make her pissed at you. I know you don't want that so I would just say, "Do you want to talk about the divorce? I understand if you don't and I am here if you do."
Sorry for all the questions lol but you are being a BIG help thanks a lot! I need advice before tomorrow! hehe. For how long do you think most woman or she would be feeling vulnerable? should I ask her to hang out this week or she might be busy in court or something
Lol! I totally understand!! It really depends on if she still loves him or not. Some women are able to date a couple weeks after some not for a couple years after. I can't really tell you how long unfortunately 😕 Ask her if you can take her to lunch on Friday!
She's from Ukraine so as her husband but he had a visa to home to the US so she had to MARRY him to come here legally yeah she could had a crush on him or something before, I'm British but I don't think she loves him.. its a long story for them haha and she told me before that she feels uncomfortable with him around the house. It wasn't marriage for love just to come here
Ooooooh okay! Then you probably have a much better chance!
If she was never in love with him then she's probably not going to be upset for very long
Sorry if I made it sound so serious haha! Do you think she will be okay?
lol it's okay! Well when the word "divorce" is brought up, it gives me an image of two people who were in love and got married and then things went bad haha I think she should be. I mean she might be sad because marrying that guy played a big part in her life, but as long as she didn't love him she should be okay.
I think she's the one doing the divorce. She said ''I'm getting divorced soon and it's very good'' over text she just dosent get along with him, i think they always argue
@Asker that is no excuse for her to divorce. It means she's lazy at fixing things. What does she expect marriage to be? Obviously she had a false sense of what marriage is. Always arguing is a sign that they need a break to separate, grow as separate people first and then come together again as husband and wife. They probably never had that break because their always together.
Either way that is her choice now. She will have to deal with it. No offense, but its people that think like her that makes men become extremely weary to marry nowadays.
Marriage is all about change and changing for the better. It sounds like two very selfish people who never was about each other. Either way, its best to stay out of it, and see how it'll be after the divorce and that can take years. Never date her while she is still married to him. It doesn't matter if she is divorcing him. Things change during divorce and it can cause a lot more problems for the court.
But ones she's divorced she can' date me? We are friends and we been to 2 dates before and she could even like me cause I'm good looking and I always listen to her, I won't be all over her business I'll just wait it out and ask her, what do you think?
@AskerOnce she is completely done then its her choice. But it just says a lot about her and tons of red flags. But if you want her regardless to all of those signs that says don't, then its on you. She won't ever forget this marriage or husband. It is not not job to make her happy if she is not already happy before you date her.
But if you do that while she is in the process of divorce, that can be brought up in court and can get her into serious trouble.
excellent advice... glad I'm part of the 25% and it's ex-wifey who's in the 75%, she makes statements of regret, missing me, etc... at least every 5th phone call. (ie when i call for kids, kid issues, etc.)
oh you said only 25% regret it? so she's part of the 25%. here i thought i was the minority.
@feminismisnarcissism Yes, 25% of divorcees actually regret getting a divorce from their spouse and actually desired to stay married to them by 5 years after the divorce. A lot this had to due with being ignorant, selfish and quick to get an 'easy way out'. But how can you do that when you loved that person for so long and their part of your lives now till the day you die? When God had commended till death, he actually meant it sexually.I'm sorry you experienced that, but overall just love your children and just love her as the mother of your children. Divorce hurts no matter how it ends.
it's hard when they don't ACT like mothers and instead exploit the children... but i do all i can to keep it civil despite constant bait from her.
@feminismisnarcissism I get it, my dad went through the same thing with my sister's mom. She is so obsessive and possessive over my father, yet she wanted nothing to do with me or my late mother. Now its a pretend thing since her death because she sees my dad is doing good now financially. He's retired, brings back a good check. And now she wants in after over 24 years. Just keep your sanity as much as possible.
ya, I'm okay now... I healed myself and found a girl who is really sweet and loving... I'd actually forgotten what real intimacy was like. My marriage nearly destroyed me-but now I'm rebuilt and much more stable and confident than i was when I got married-so in a way i consider the ex my best friend (despite her attempt to destroy me)... just from a DISTANCE mind you lol. Whatever happens to us-it's how WE DEFINE ourselves from it that matters.
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