Hi, I need help and advice.
I had been living with my guy for 7 months, we had a great relationship always understanding each other, having a great time, everything was perfect.
He pursued me and we always had a great laugh, he was like my sole mate and best friend all in one.
2 weeks ago he was secretive with his phone so I snuck it to look and found that he had been texting another girl, she had text back saying she couldn't wait to spend tomorrow night with him! He told me before I found out that he wanted to go spend the night with his grand parents for some time to sort himself out. ( He was brought up by his gp's as his mum was murdered) he has issue in life about it but we worked through them.
When I told him about the text he just curled up in a ball and never really spoke to me.When he left he hugged me and kissed and He left with a male friend who was with us at a time and couple of hours later he text to say he was sorry it was like this but he will come get his things later.
Couple of days later he came with his friend to get some of his stuff just some clothes really, I have since taken the rest of his things to his gp's house. They still want me to remain close to them,
This is what I can't get, since the split my ex texts me every day to say hi and to let me know what he is up to and that, sometimes it turns to a difficult text if he asked what I up to and I say I'm at a friends house. its like he gets awkward with me saying I got holidays to book I'm busy! Or he is out racing in cars with his mates He's the one that texts first. not me. I leave him alone to get on with his new girl. After an awkward text two days ago he text yesterday to see if I had a control for his TV of all things! and he knows I have return everything. Today he text real nice saying did I manage to find it. I told him that if I found it I would pop to see grandma later in the day if it was OK with him as I don't want to feel uncomfortable , he said it was OK as he had stuff to do today so it would be fine to go.
I ring up later to see if grandma was in and he answers the phone! so why is he there when he had stuff to do, I just don't understand why he is texting about his life to me, he knows he has hurt me deeply so why does he do this
Please advise me as I am confused.
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hes not sure he's made the right decision...you both seem to have played a huge part in each other lives, which is a good thing. You need to be true to yourself and tell him it'd help you if he could keep his new social life to himself and taht you're trying to get over what happened. Be honest and up front, otherwise he'll never know. He obviously still cares about you and is trying to find ways to see you again (do you have my tv remote). I mean they do sell universal tv remotes now a days and they aren't that expensive either.Keep doing your thing and try to stay away from his social life because it will just hurt you some more.
You seem like you're doing ok with this and you just need some space from him to feel better. Concentrate on yourself, what led to the break up, why you broke up, and then become a better person out of it. Go to the gym to relieve stress or go for a run. Go do anything to keep him off your mind...go out with friends (but only if you're ready) - you don't have to go out and look for a guy, you will know when you're ready for another guy in your life. right now I think you should concentrate on you and be yourself. you're single...summer is a month away, go out, meet new people, do something different and outgoing..HAVE FUN! lol treat yourself nice, you deserve it...if he keeps getting at you and its bringin you down you need to tell him that its hard for you and that youd like him to stop getting you involved with his social life and you will contact him when you're able to accept those kind of things...
take your time, don't rush anything, if its meant to be fate will make it happen...good luck!1