Has anyone ever stayed friends with an ex boyfriend or girlfriend or do you always think its too hard. Is there ever any motives behind someone wanting to stay friends with them or what? At first me and my ex had sex a few trimes and then he thought it was a bad idea as it was not fair to ether of us and he suggested us be friends. I think it is very hard in my opinion bc although our relationship was short I found him to be someone who I would be with for a long time. So has anyone had a sucessful friendship and how did it turn out, did you get back together or what happened/
Most Helpful Guy
I think there are always motives for "let's be friends."
For the dumper: let's be friends so I can pretend that I am letting you down slowly and that won't hurt as much, and then I won't feel so guilty about hurting a nice person.
let's be friends so, if I don't find somebody else ) or if the somebody else I already found doesn't work out) you'll be right here and we can get back together.
For the dumpee: let's be friends so that you'll continue to see what a wonderful person I am and you'll want to come back to me.
let's be friends so I can keep track of what you are doing and I can move in to interfere if you get into anything too serious.
let's be friends so I can be pathetic and pretend that we haven't really broken up and I won't have to deal with my broken heart.1
Most Helpful Girl
Your ex. seems like a nice guy. Too bad it didn't work out. Best to cut all contacts when you still have feelings. Allowing the sex to happen will not help you move on and you will get hurt more and wonder more like right now.
To answer your question. College boyfriend. no more contact. ex. yes. share kids.
current ex. minimum contacts. he checks up on me occassionally. I am okay with that, no more feelings. Both have moved on, and focusing on current relationship.
Best to just move on from one another. So you can be free of meeting new people.0