was with this guy 2 years ago, I think i was the one who called it off as he would be busy and wouldn't spent as much time with me as I wanted though it was hard as we both had feelings for each other. I moved on think he did too. occasionally id bump into him in the street or quite recently we texted etc just normal not bout us, relationship or anything and 2 months ago he made his reappearance in my life. he came with my flatmate one night and as as soon as we saw each other the attraction we always had before was back as no time has passed, we kissed and stuff, then I surprised him and saw him again and we had sex too then he was busy and then I went away for over a month , he wouldn't keep great contact with me but he never was a chatty person, 2 weeks after I came back we talked on the net and he said he had a recent girlfriend , I talked bit about feelings with him though wouldn't need to its obvious he has feelings for me and I have for him I went to see him the same day I wanted to see the situation in real rather than messages, asked him for a cuppa we were normally talking about everything casual stuff, work etc then just out of the blue he mentioned (as he always did recently) the guy who was my flatmate who wanted something but I didn't (I guess he's jealous in someway anyway) then was gonna watch a movie and he wouldn't let me watch it , he was all over me kissing me as he hadn't seen me for a year and wanted to please me so much , felt like Xmas to me though I didn't let him , later on he brought up my ex flat mate again (ie he should be doing what my flat mate with girls). I could feel he's so much into me an thought he wanted to try again..
then another day I asked him out and he said wasn't good idea he thinks is best if we don't see each other for a while, I know its a difficult situation to come back together with an ex who you were with almost 1 and half years ago and he met somebody
i won't really believe he'd be the type of guy to just reappear in my life to mess it up and hurt me , he's not like that, he's caring but then you never know
does he honestly need a while to think or he's just running away from me ?
how do I get him run back to me again?
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he came back to you for a reason...random hook up? he missed you? he wanted to see if he still felt the same way he always has for you? he just wanted to say hello?
there could be tons of reasons behind why he came back to see you and talked to you frequently...it seems like he loves you, but isn't sure about a relationship again because maybe he's afraid to repeat that year and a half that DIDNT work...
during this time you need to work on yoruself, you need to figure out what went wrong, why it went wrong...but you should also be wokring on who YOU are as a person...go the gym (great stress reliever - I did it and I look a lot better than when I dated my ex) this will make you more appealing to other guys AND your ex...not that you aren't now or were before but working out will make you feel great about yourself and give you mroe confidence...
look I know this is tough but no contact isn't to get your ex back...sure it may work but its really the time you need to use to figure out who you are as a person...i know this is easier said than done but you've got to try
meet new people, buy a TV show series...something that will keep him off your mind and on something else...the less he is on your mind the easier(I know it will be tough, but you can do this)...
if you guys recconnect again, take things SLOWWWWW...it was turtle that won the race NOT the rabbit (not sure if you know of that story in your country but its very true for these kind of situations) anyways you can't just, as badly as you want to, jump into things...you just got to let it happen...but also when you reconnet don't be all over him, show him that you're a better person and your in the process of moving on...this will trigger his mind that "oh sh*t I'm losing her, I don't want to, I need to do something about this"
things will work out if its meant to be, you just need to remain CALM and collect your emotions before letting them show...esp around him
do yourself anotehr favor and stop looking at his Facebook, its a HORRIBLE idea...youll just become upset and maybe angry...who cares what he's doing now!(I know you do but you can't show that)...you need to show him that you have a new life...put new pics up of you with new people and going out, make HIM jealous of you...envy you...see where I'm getting at...in order to make him realize what you are to him you need ot show him you're willing to move on without him if he doesn't want you, which you should be starting to do anyways...
just use your head and take things slowly, this new "gf" of his is probably a rebound and won't last too long...dont worry and keep your head up ok...time will tell...start gettin on with your life!
hope this helps, good luck0