Long term boyfriend is cheating. How do I approach it?
What Guys Said 1
u should ask a good WISE friend because they know more about ur situation and possibly ur spouse and his personality
What Girls Said 2
The first thing I want to know, here, is what the dynamic of this relationship -- and the way *you* approach this relationship in general -- is like.
How often do you say NO to this man?
How often do you say NO in general... to anyone?
How often do you actually talk with this man about what YOU want?
What percent of the time do you make decisions with HIM in mind?
What percent of the time does HE make decisions with YOU in mind?
(I have a bad, bad feeling that the answer to the second one is 0 percent)
I mean... It's easy for me to say what the best advice is, here:
His ass needs to be AT HOME, with his BABY.
When we had newborns or 1-2 year-olds... Shit girl.
Not only did neither of us almost *ever* have the opportunity to go out for more than a couple hours -- but, the only reason we even got adequate sleep was that we're on different sleep schedules (= at least one of us is pretty much always awake, no matter what time it is).
I mean... Fuck no.
If I had to lose sleep with a baby because my man was gone to I-don't-even-know-where? Haha I would RAGE on him. I might even get physically violent.
This is all totally golden rule, too -- if HE had to lose HIS sleep because MY ass had disappeared somewhere mysterious, I'd expect big trouble myself.
But... That's not my main point.
The point is... I'm wondering how you've even gotten to a situation where he thinks it's okay to do this.
In any case -- if you don't mind, I'm curious about the answers to those 3 things, up there.
Also, you should tell this man that when it comes to being a father... either he's in, or he's out.
If he doesn't want to be HOME and helping to take care of HIS BABY... then, you should be perfectly willing to leave him.
... With YOUR truck.
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