I am home now and I feel like I have made a horrible mistake. I don't know if this is how u feel when you breakup with someone but I dont want to go back to the cycle again and I want to move on but dont know how.
Any advice? What can i do now to not think about this and want to go back to him? What is the healthiest way to move on? Did I do the right thing?
Most Helpful Guy
One of the biggest reasons why relationships fail isn't because of fights or whatnot, but because both partners become to comfortable, go into daily routines and stop nurturing the relationship.
Reality is that a relationship is like a flower. Yes, it can stand by itself for a long time - but if you stop nurturing it, it will eventually wither away. That is what happened with your relationship.
The problem now is that instead of figuring that out and trying to work it out, you broke up the relationship - and most likely burned a whole ton of bridges now.
So before you do anything impulsive again, you should sit down and really think why instead of trying to deal things out - your reaction was to break up. Secondly you should figure out, if you just don't want to be alone or if you really do still have feelings (past friendship, but romantic feelings) for your now ex.
And last, but not least, you will have an uphill battle if you want to try to win your boyfriend back while at the same time ahving to work on the already existing issues.
Most Helpful Girl
You don't cope! You move on. And it starts by removing everything about that person you broke up with. The truth is you made the right decision, because if your not getting anywhere then you wasted years of your time. You have no plans for marriage, and it isn't like you want to do that now. The whole purpose of dating in the first place is to find a marriage partner to do life with. And if you guys have no further goals why waste time?
The only thing you can do is this:
1. Remove all items that he have given you and return them immediately. And if he says to keep them, don't, either he takes them to sell it back or throw it out. Do not keep anything that he gave you.
2. Pictures that you both share and have on cameras, needs to be deleted from it. That includes videos that you recorded. If its on social media, delete it as well. If it happens to be shared from friends, please kindly ask them to remove it from their social media.
3. Next you've handled all of that with him, then block and delete his number.
Everything else comes on its own. But now you have to take this time to reflect on the relationship of what you both did wrong, write them down and learn from those mistakes. And that also includes sex as well if this was a sexual relationship. I can't tell you what to do, but making a relationship sexual makes it very hard to depart from an unhealthy relationship with that person. Be honest with yourself and change your ways that you've adapted from it. And if this is still being a problem, go seek professional counseling. Don't put this off if that relationship have badly impacted the way you live.