My ex and I have now been Separated for three weeks. He is working on his life decisions. I have been trying my hardest to do the limited contact thing and have gotten better with time. Over the past weekend he found out I was going to a 26 hour paint ball game and called me late at night while I was gone. I missed his call and in the morning like clock work he text me as soon as he got up and asked if I was going to ignore him all weekend. I sent him a short reply saying I was camping and would talk to him sometime later. Upon return home my best friends Boyfriend was killed in a motorcycle accident. This made my mine go into a frenzy because I hadn't talked to my ex in days! I tried to call no answer. I pulled a crazy and went to his house and told him I needed some support in dealing with the drama and I was glad he was OK. This turned into a very serious talk bout our feelings for each other and he told me that he has thought a million times about coming back but doesn't want to if he has any doubts if we will make it. He then told me he wants to join the military which makes sense of the commitment issues since he believes I may not go with him if he gets stationed somewhere else. (Not true. I have thought long and hard and I would spend the rest of my life with this man if he would have me) We proceeded to get mushy and talk about what we would need to work on together communication wise if we were to get back together and it turned its us making love. After he didn't want me to leave. I forced myself to leave but it was like everything was back to normal. Before I left he said he just needed more time to be sure and that he loved me and thanked me for understanding he needed to think. We have talked briefly but I am trying to give him the space he needs. I don't want him to think I used him for sex and I don't want to push him away. When should I try to contact him about a meeting, to get coffee or something to work on us without the heavy relationship/break up talk? Should I continue to say hello Via text every now and then? Please advice!
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this is a hard one, and you are very mature for your age. YOu have done all the right things up to this point by giving him space and I think this is why he is now doubting breaking up with you. I would give him some space, maybe a week or two. Then after that just call, pretend he's your best friend and say, Hey, hows things? and just make casual convo. Just act like a girl who has her head on straight like you are doing now. don't ask him if he has thought about wanting you back. done talk about teh break up at all unless he brings it up. A little trick that seems to work for me- call his phone just enough to let it ring one time, then hang up. Ill bet he calls you back . good luck0