My ex-girlfriend broke up with me last Thursday because she didn't feel ready for a relationship (although we were six months in). She said she needs to fix her issues with commitment, patience, affection, and affection.
Yesterday she started telling me how upset and depressed she is because of the breakup. Today she said she has "mixed emotions towards" me because she "still has the littlest hope of us getting back together" and she doesn't trust yet she still has that hope that we will.
So she hopes we get back together, how can I make this happen effectively?
We have spoken every day since the breakup, and we are still good friends. We've been best friends for 4 years, partners for 6 months.
Most Helpful Girl
I actually suggest that you let yourselves have some space. I am in the same situation with my boyfriend (You can read my question if you like). By letting her have away from you to get her thoughts together clearly without the distraction of you around I think is important.
On top of this she will get to experience what life without you is like and this may shock her into realisation of how much she loves you or doesn't love you.
It sounds harsh, but you don't need to call it a break up, you just need to make sure you cover your grounds such as how much or no contact there is and what things are appropriate to say (although i advise no contact) and how long for and who is to message the other first (best if you make it the person with a stronger will if there is one.)
I am feel your struggle and I mean I have this is practice now so i can't tell you the outsome but it feels like the right thing to do.
I hope this helps :)
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Most Helpful Guy
I think with youth comes uncertainty
At such a young age, it's hard to commit to someone fully
But it would be silly to be split apart, when obviously you both love eachother. You need to continue a relationship with her, but take it day by day, don't look to much into the future.
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