I was dating a girl for about 5 months, things seemed to be going great, or at least I thought. She introduced me to her mom a few weeks ago, invited me to Thanksgiving, and mentioned she wanted to move in together this spring when her lease ends. About 2 weeks ago, she asked me to stay at her place 3 nights. On the third night we went on a double date with her friends, and on our way home, she suddenly tells me that she isn't sure how she feels about me and is worried that she thinks her feelings should be stronger for me by now. After telling me this, she asks me if I want to stay the night. Then she calls me the next day to ask if I was avoiding her (I was respecting her need for space). She then calls me a couple of more times during the week. Then this weekend she stops by my house to bring me some of my stuff that I had left at her place. While she is at my place, she straddles me and starts kissing me. Then she asks me out to dinner, where she asked me to kiss her multiple times. The next morning she calls me to tell me she is still unsure how she feels about me. What should I do?
Any thoughts on why she is sending mixed signals?
Why would she want to spend time with me and would kiss me if she is unsure about me?
Should I just not contact her? She is starting a new job on Monday so I am not sure if I should wish her luck or wish her a happy Thanksgiving next week.
I care about her and would like her back in my life but not sure how to get her back.
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I think some people have this idea of what love and romance "should" be and work up that image in their mind. It seems like she might have reflected on that ideal and compared her feelings to that and had a moment of uncertainty.
I'd ask her about it - you don't deserve to feel unsure or like you're being played but from your there descriptions she sounds into you1