A few months ago John* tried to get with Kate*. At the time I met John he didn't know that I was friends with Kate. I only know he tried to pursue Kate because she sent me screen shots asking what she should do (she said he's cool as a friend, nothing more) so when he tried to approach me soon afterwards I know essentially I was the plan B and brushed off his advances. I told him I know all about him trying Kate and how I'm obviously lower on his priority list, the fallback girl but he denied it!
After him relentlessly asking for my # I gave in so he'd leave me alone! But I told him as friends. Now he's constantly texting me and I realize that I don't want him in my life as even a friend. I wouldn't mind saying hello if I happen to see him around campus.
I'm not one to let things fade out because it never works for me. Here are the two phrases I've come up with to text or say over the phone but if you have anything better please feel free to share.
First: John, I'm not a good friend and you deserve better. I hope you find what you are looking for. Please
do not contact me anymore.
Second: John, we don't have enough in common to even be friends. I hope you find what you are looking for. Please do not contact me anymore.
*names have been changed
- the first (say he deserves better)40%(2)25%(2)Vote0%(0)
- the second (say we're not compatible)60%(3)75%(6)Vote100%(3)
Most Helpful Guy
Do you not want to be friends with him because he is texting you like crazy or is it another reason? If it's reason one then tell him to quit blowing up your phone every day. Then if he still doesn't stop that's when you tell him that you can't be friends with him and hope he gets the hint as to why.0
Most Helpful Girl
Some guy came up to me last night at the club. We actually had a lot in common and he was nice to talk to, but I just wasn't interested in him. He started getting all needy sounding and talking about how he probably wouldn't ever see him again. I didn't want to give him my number, so I finally just said, "You're a nice guy, you really are, but I'm just not the girl for you." He got right up and walked away, didn't even want to talk as friends anymore.
Guys want you to be honest if you don't like them. If you are nice to them, but make it clear you're not compatible, then they'll get the message clearly.1
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