my heart just hurts every day. he wanted to just be friends, but hasn't really reached out. and i'm just sitting here all the time hoping he will. i don't want to anymore. i want to move on. i want to forget all of the the fun memories i had with him. but i can't and it's driving me crazy and making me sad all of the time. he was so amazing. the perfect guy. i'm broken. :( can anyone offer advice of what to do? i don't want to feel like this all Christmas season... it's supposed to be a happy time of year. and he left me to go be happy in his own life while i sit here feeling awful.
Most Helpful Guy
I'm very sorry for your breakup and I know exactly what you feel. It gets better if you work on it. If you sulk, you're only going to make things worse. I'm not saying don't sulk, but if you have to, get it all out of your system so you can start moving on. I mean when my girlfriend dumped me I did nothing but smoke weed, cry like a 4 year old girl, watch romcoms, and play video games (I know so manly, but fuck it, I was so in love with her and I was blindsided by the breakup because everything was going so well and I needed to get all the grieving out of me).
What I found to help me through my recent breakup was to write about it and analyze the entire relationship and why it ended. Look, the truth is that he thinks he's better off without you. He doesn't love and care about you enough to want to be with you. Do you really think you deserve someone like that? Everyone deserves to be with someone who feels the same way. Staying with you would have been unfair to the both of you. You can now go out and find someone that will feel the same about you and maybe is even more compatible and better looking. There's MILLIONS of guys out there, your head is all messed up and you've forgotten this.
The first step is to accept that it's over, that means stop giving yourself false hope that everything will go back to the way it was because it's not going to happen, it's OVER. Don't get stuck in the past and concentrate on your future and yourself. Don't waste anymore time crying over someone who doesn't deserve it.0
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Most Helpful Girl
Remember you are still you - the whole person you were before you met him. You enjoyed Christmas before he even existed in your life and you will again. Listen to the music - let it heal and comfort you. Enjoy your family and friends who love you unconditionally. If you were meant to be with him he wouldn't have left you. You will be okay. This is out of your control and that is what makes it so hard. But life is full of things happening that are out of our control. We must realize this and accept it. Believe that you are meant for something greater.0