So my ex and i just didn't work. He was cold not affectionate at all and not spontaneous. He also had a very low sex drive. I still loved him through all his awkwardness and tried to make it work. But eventually it just got to be too hard to give up the things I wanted. He wanted to be with his friends all the time, he never called me babe or anything like that. He even said himself he knows he sucks at that stuff. So my question is now that he's talking to someone new all I can think about is how he's going to be different with her. How he's going to give her everything I wanted and waited years for him to give me. Does it work that way? Will he see what he did wrong and be different? Or since that's his core personality he will treat her the same way? It's killing me to think someone will get that from him.
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The fact is that yes, he might well improve and become the things that he should have been for you. That will only happen if he realises that he NEEDS to change and he gets off his butt and does something about that. As long as he does neither then he will just repeat the same mistakes.
He has the right to improve on his shortcomings and to find love, just as we all do. It's unfortunate that it won't be with you but sometimes we are just the wrong fit and sometimes it's entirely the wrong time for it to work. Just because he could improve with someone else doesn't mean that he could ever have improved with you. Again, it's about the right timing and the right fit.
Don't obsess about what he might and might not do or become. You are not with him anymore, it's over. You need to find peace with that, find closure and move on with your life. He's just one single man out of a world of men. He is neither the worst or the best. There is life beyond him as long as you don't give up on life.0
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