I met this guy 3 months ago and everything started off really good. We never fought. It seemed healthy. Then things have been quiet for a month. I've just been tired and sleeping a lot. I don't really like talking on the phone or texting much and need space. But I would send him a message daily that said how I wanted him.
So tonight he calls me up and says it's over because I'm emotionally unavailable, apparently. He's upset because at first I would text him a lot and call him. But now that things have settled there's no need for that. There have been multiple times this last week where he texted and I had fallen asleep after work so I took a few hours to get back to him. So now suddenly he was suspicious because I told him a few guys asked me out this week. But no. Mr butthurt and needy thinks I don't like him because I didn't give him enough attention? pffft. Maybe I'm better off. I mean he sounds crazy right? I'm shocked I never suspected this from him. HE didn't seem crazy. This came out of nowhere.
Most Helpful Guy
Like many relationships with unhappy ending, lack of communication, understanding and agreement is standing out boldly.
The fault is on both of you, although his side is pretty much heavier.
The relationship sounded wrong from the first place. There is a lot of wrong factors in the middle.
You both should've discuss this with maturity before it led to this.
-He is insecure and distrusted over you
-He couldn't understand your conditions. You are working and have particular schedule which is natural to feel tired or even demand some space or chilling time on your own.
-He had lack of ability to confront his issues and discuss it in the act of maturity.
-He also ignored the fact you don't really favor texting and phone calling. And the fact that you were doing it at first is because you pushed yourself through your own limits to prove your care for him.
However, if you both would balance a good amount of communication, it wouldn't be this way.1
Most Helpful Girl
I think he's in the right if I was him I'd do the same.
A relationship needs nurturing.
I used to fall asleep, but then I told him let's call each other and if we fall asleep at least you can hear me snore :-p. Or we had cut off point when to stop talking ours was 9pm.
We saw each other at least 3 times a week.
Texts aren't enough.
When I started our relationship I'd hardly talk to him, now he's my companion, my husband, my sole mate, my consort and my best friend. He comes first. I come first for him. Now we talk all the time.
I think you needed space, and you should have told him, your working hard and are tired. Communication is so crucial to any relationship.2