I met this guy 3 months ago and everything started off really good. We never fought. It seemed healthy. Then things have been quiet for a month. I've just been tired and sleeping a lot. I don't really like talking on the phone or texting much and need space. But I would send him a message daily that said how I wanted him.
So tonight he calls me up and says it's over because I'm emotionally unavailable, apparently. He's upset because at first I would text him a lot and call him. But now that things have settled there's no need for that. There have been multiple times this last week where he texted and I had fallen asleep after work so I took a few hours to get back to him. So now suddenly he was suspicious because I told him a few guys asked me out this week. But no. Mr butthurt and needy thinks I don't like him because I didn't give him enough attention? pffft. Maybe I'm better off. I mean he sounds crazy right? I'm shocked I never suspected this from him. HE didn't seem crazy. This came out of nowhere.
Most Helpful Guy
Relationship is all about maintaining temparament and dynamics of attention and love which was seen at beginning. If either of the person notices the change, it starts bothering.
You paid nice attention at start out of excitement but then as relationship started getting older , attention started going down for whatever genuine reason it was.
He noticed that and got insecure and when he was worried if my baby Darling loves me anymore or not you gave him news of how few guys are asking you out. Omg
In this circumstances, anyone would develop conclusion that things are not like before and you might be losing interest and to protect his self respect he thought it was better to end myself before my girlfriend does that.
And it all happened based on assumptions, miscommunication , and misunderstanding situations.
Hence what you can do is try to reverse the situation by meeting at person anyhow and explaining him all the circumstances and how some current situation is creating misunderstanding.
Then ball is in his court. Make your position clear and if he is mature enuf than he will be at peace.
If he still whines, you are better off without him then. ;-)0
Most Helpful Girl
I think he's in the right if I was him I'd do the same.
A relationship needs nurturing.
I used to fall asleep, but then I told him let's call each other and if we fall asleep at least you can hear me snore :-p. Or we had cut off point when to stop talking ours was 9pm.
We saw each other at least 3 times a week.
Texts aren't enough.
When I started our relationship I'd hardly talk to him, now he's my companion, my husband, my sole mate, my consort and my best friend. He comes first. I come first for him. Now we talk all the time.
I think you needed space, and you should have told him, your working hard and are tired. Communication is so crucial to any relationship.2