I met a guy on okcupid and we are 94% match so I said hi. He replied and then we started talking daily. After some time, he said he's leaving okcupid and wants to give "us" a chance. So we talked on facebook. He initiated our first video call. Called me with a term of endearment first. Sent the "❤️" icon first. Left the first voice message. Because of this I've fallen for him. When I admitted it to him, all he said was he's not sure about his feelings for me since we haven't met personally. I said why did you treat me that way if you don't feel any attachment to me? He said because he wanted to feel the same way that I do so he thought if he would treat me nicely he would. We ended up deciding to be friends for now but we don't talk anymore. It's so painful. Why did he make me fall if he wouldn't catch me in the end?
Most Helpful Guy
This relationship was destined to fail. No internet dating sites can decide your match makers remember this you first world people.
It's a romantic fantasy but sorry, such relationship are often shallow. Use internet as platform to befriend first but try to make it later in real meetings. This is the way to go.
Don't develop any attachment in life unless you make it real. Don't be dependent on computers for your matches.
94% match my foot HUHHHHHHHHHH2
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Most Helpful Girl
To answer your main question? Because they want to sex. They want a hookup and expect sex on the first date or first few. Now to answer your overall question. Who knows really. Sites like OkCupid are about lust and sex from these users. It may have to do with the fact that things are moving a bit too quickly for him, and he doesn't feel the same way about you. He says that he isn't sure, but the reality is, he IS sure. He is just a bit freaked out that in such a short time that you're already that emotionally invested in him. If he doesn't feel the same way, then walk away. One-sided relationships end's badly.
The thing is, he never made you fall for him. YOU did it yourself. You have to know if you want to love him of not, not fall in love. This is what happens when you do. My advice is to not get emotionally attached and so invested so early in a relationship when there is no guarantee it will last and they don't show that they equally feel the same about you. It will just lead to more disappointments.1
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