Im 27, his 28. Since the start he was honest with me & he told me he was taking anxiety pills & receiving therapy because he had abandonment issues from when he was a child & that he has always had bad relationships. So I wanted to show him there was people who were willing to love him. I started to show him affection, which he told me to stop because I was being clingy, but it was not that I was being clingy but I wanted to show him that someone can love him. He always talked how he gave his exs all of the attention in the world & gave them everything but with me he never did those things. It bothered me because I was going over board to try to make him happy. It would bother me that I was always the one making the plans & he hardly payed attention to me he would hardly text me & when we hanged out he would always be very judgmental towards me which hurt me. Saying comments like I had dated way prettier girls than you Comments like that made me feel insecure & him constantly talking about his exs really hurt me. Everytime he would talk about them I would get upset then when I would talk mess he would tell me you need to let go of my past? Like you are the one who is constantly talking about it that is why I get upset. I broke up with him but then I regret it & he said he did not wanted to be with me he was tired of me bringing up his past but he didn't see who was the one who was doing it and I would just get upset and talk mess. I was always making the plans. I was always very patient with him & being supportive. After the 2nd month of dating he stop going to therapy & he stopped taking his pills he started to get better & started to be happy. Yet we still argued a lot because he was constantly talking about them & constantly cristism me. Like I don't know if it was my fault because when he brought up his exs I would get upset instead of listening? I should have respected him not wanting to be a affectionate boyfriend. what is your opinion of the situation?
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It's almost like he expected you to read his mind and act and give him what he wanted. Problem is, that kept changing intensity on the fly and he expected you know what his mood was automatically and act accordingly. Personally, I would not date someone who needs meds and therapy to act normal. I would always be afraid of them breaking down and becoming totally dysfunctional later in life. So that is a deal breaker. Once he starts to act like he did and be insulting and belittling that early in a relationship, that is strike two. I play two pitch baseball, so he would be out!1