Okay so my boyfriend broke up with me last Thursday and we have a skiing holiday booked in a week. We live in Southern Finland and the trip is to Northern Finland, so it is nothing big. When we broke up he said he will go to the holiday no matter what I decide, one day after he said he will not probably go if I do not go with him. We have kept in touch due to the holiday. When I was still hesitating if I should go with him or not, he said he really wants me to join him. I agreed.
We decided on how to behave in the holiday: he said he wants to act like we never broke up. I know this sounds fishy but I know my ex and he is a good man. I really wish to get back together with him because the reason why we broke up was because I started medication for my anxiety and they made me say stupid things which I would not normally say.
When he was together with his ex, he made too quick decisions which made them break up and get back together many times. This might be the same, since I felt like he might have sounded like he regretted breaking up.
All in all when we broke up and he was talking about the trip, he said he cannot promise anything after the trip, and he cannot know what will happen after it. The day after we broke up when he said he wants me to join him, he was just saying that he does not know what will happen.
I know it sounds weird and stupid, but I know what I feel in my head now and everything seems so clear to me, and I am getting better with the anxiety: I do not have it almost at all anymore! This is what I want him to see. He told me I am the perfect girl for him, apart from the anxiety issues that also concern him.
So what do you think about this? All answers are highly appreciated! <3
Most Helpful Guy
you're perfect for him... but he can't promise you staying after the trip?
what this trip all about? let's have one last dance and sex and good bye?
If he really worried about your anxiety issues... he will stay to your side to give the support that you need.
the real relationship is accepting each other with your positive or negative differences... no matter if you're in a wheelchair or anxiety or not.
just don't live your life by someone else's standards.
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Most Helpful Girl
what! it sounds weird0