Most Helpful Guy
talk to him how how you feel. how this bothering you so much and do not mean to be so jealous and overly reactive to the whole situation. tell him how you dont want to make any wrong moves and that i struggle with this from my previous relationship. also talk about i need reassurance from you. i love you dearly and I dont want to be hurt. also with future friend I will make a better attempt to not be rude to future friends that are girls, but I need you to reassurance from you and complete honesty from you that you really care for me. sit down and have a conversation no distraction. do nt make him feel like he is being putting in the hot spot rather tell him i am struggling through something and I need you to understand where i am coming from. show you see his perspective too but also yours. if you love each other you guys will take the time see each other's perspective.
Most Helpful Girl
I think it's time for you to dump the baggage from the previous relationship. If in two years your partner has been supportive and patient, catered to your insecurities and gotten rid of friends because you felt threatened then now is the time to make a choice.
Has he done enough to prove himself trustworthy except for this incident?
If he has, then move forward with the information you now have. Ask them to be open about their friendship instead of keeping it private, maybe suggest a double date with the brother and co-worker.
He didn't tell you because he doesn't trust you to be level headed and mature about it. Admitting that you would be upset and jealous if he had been honest, but now feeling betrayed that he omitted it is a bit of a lose lose situation. He hasn't gone out seeking female friends, they're co-workers who developed a more social bond. It's ok for him to have friends, but putting him in a no-win situation doesn't help either of you.
Good luck with it all, I hope you're able to find a way to deal with it whichever way you go 😊