He has a daughter and I have two sons. His daughter can be very difficult to deal with, but despite that, I've bonded with her quite well and we do lots of stuff together. She takes structure and discipline well. Because she so enjoys dress up, coloring, etc. she really tries to behave for me. I told him that I know she's with her mom most of the time but we still need to encourage her to be good. We have challenges but it's been pretty good.
I don't see him much trying to bond with my kids or show the same effort. He's nice to them and all, but I don't see him really trying to engage with them at all. He has lots of ideas about how I should discipline them and I have heard him correcting them before. He says it's because he wants then to be successful. Anything I do or say with them could be done better if it's done his way. I have talked to him before to the point of tears telling him I don't think I can do anything right. He said im an amaxing mom and so amazing with his daughter and he loves that im sweet but think im too sweet and my boys will walk all over me.
I think he may be right in some ways, but I fear he's too quick to point out their flaws while he lets his daughter get away with way more than he should. Im willing to work with him and point out what she does right. I just love them both anyway. I feel people should be built up not not picked for every little thing they do wrong. I don't know if I should give this more time or not. Im beginning to think this relationship is not the best for my kids.