Most Helpful Guy
I know that it hurts a lot but you need to occupy your time and mind with close friends and activities you enjoy. You are not gonna stop thinking about him but it won't be constant. I tried getting with as many women as possible after my relationship ended and it hurt me more because she was all I thought about.
Most Helpful Girl
You need time and to start working on yourself. Writing in a journal, talking to your friends or a trusted family member and finding new hobbies are also helpful.
What is not helpful is what you're doing, because you're not dealing with the pain by engaging in random hookups or drinking or doing drugs. Instead what you're doing is putting a temporary proverbial Band-Aid on your feelings while engaging in activities that are a detriment to you and can harm you. I know it hurts but you have to deal with your pain and allow yourself to feel it before you start healing.