So my ex girlfriend recently broke up with me and told me she didn't feel an connection in an intimate way anymore. I am 38 she is 32. We were together for 2months. We have so much in common, We were always together. Always had a great time and great convo. No fights ever! We took a trip for New Years. The last two days I noticed she was acting differently. She said nothing was wrong, but something was. We get back and I gave her space. Next day she told me "we need to talk" she tells me that she feels like she "lost the intimate connection" with me and doesn't feel the same way anymore. I didn't fight beg or plead her on it she was honest. I did the opposite and just "accepted it" she told me that she still wants to be "friends" I said that's fine. So I went NC on her for 8days. Two days ago she texted me, So that felt good. Then she texted me yesterday and we talked for a bit again and on the phone. I asked her if she would be openminded to "us" possibly getting back together down the road. She said sure anything is possible! Feelings change.
So my question to you girls and guys is... what is the best course of action to take in my situation? Should I heal for a few weeks and then try and build a friendship with her and see where the future takes us? Or should I start no contact again and see other people in the meantime and live my life and then contact her in the future with the possibility of us getting back together? I know if I don't text her she will call or text me to see how I'm doing. I'm just so confused and broken down by all this. I actually thought to myself if this relationship keeps going on amazingly like this for a while I could even picture marriage and a kids with her in our future. Which is something by the way that I have never thought about with ANY other person I've been in a relationship with before. So please help!!! What should I do about all this? Is there a possibility we could be together again given the nature of our relationship?
Most Helpful Girl
Some people like to be very harsh but I understand how hard it is. I say for right now, NC is best. She will not be able to miss your presence if you're still around in any way shape or form. Seeing other people in between is up to you but I suggest not having a rebound as it isn't fair to you or to the rebound. I say do NC for a month since you last spoke, if she tries to contact you during the month, don't reply until the month is up. If she hasn't contacted you, do it for another month until you are fully healed. On the bright side, she isn't closing the door! But being friends right now isn't going to be beneficial and it's not what you want so don't friendzone yourself0
Most Helpful Guy
I think the best course of action is the later. Don't become her friend though, that's not what you want and as long as you give her the attention you used to give her she's ot going to want you back since she's getting the best of both worlds. My advice is to go no contact until she contacts you then set up a date, treat her as if you two just started dating. You also need to be upfront and honest with her. Tell her that you can't be friends with her because you want something more and it's not fair to the two of you and that if she ever changes her mind to let you know.2
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