My boyfriend dumped me. We saw each other every 10-14 days. He said he was ok with that but was unhappy that I barely text or call him in between visits. I admit I texted and called a lot when we first met. But once things settled down I felt I had nothing good to say and I need lots of solitude. He didn't text much either because he tried to give me space. Then he I missed his texts and calls yesterday and got distracted. So he sends me this long breakup text saying I don't seem capable of having a real relationship and he loves me but has to call it quits.
Is boyfriend crazy for dumping me for not putting in enough effort?
What Guys Said 2
I would have dumped you too. There is no reason to only seeing your boyfriend once every 1-2 weeks or not even keeping in contact. I lived 2.5 hours away from my ex for the first 6 months and we still saw each other multiple times a week. She worked full time and I'm in med school so we were both very busy. When I'm in a relationship I expect to see my girlfriend multiple times a week.0
I think the issue is not about effort.
I think you're more introverted and enjoy more alone time than he does. That made you a poor match.0
What Girls Said 1
No he isn't crazy, when you date someone, you need to put in effort to keep in touch w/the person. If you don't, your partner will think you lost interest or that you are taking them for granted. Not texting much in between 2 week visits, doesn't show that you are invested. I think you didn't care for him as much as he cared for you, otherwise you would find things to text and you would make an effort to see him a lot more. What you have is not a relationship, just seems something convenient for you, no one wants to be someone's convenience.0
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