I really want him so badly he's always flirting with me and he's so gorgeous... What should I do? I'm always thinking about him
- Pursue himVote A
- Try to get with him and divorce his wifeVote B
Most Helpful Guy
2 things to say.
1.) Firstly, having a feeling in this does not make you a bad person. Feelings can't always be controlled, especially in regards to romance. It'd be like if a dude confessed to a girl and the girl said she didn't feel the same way. Is it the girl's fault for not having feelings for the guy? No.
2.) In contrary your "feelings" however, actions are important to have self control with. Flirting back, pursuing, or trying to get with him is bad. If he doesn't love his wife, he should divorce her on his own, but don't pressure him. I would consider a morally bad thing.
That being said, morals are relative to one's self only. But, by asking this question, I'm guessing you at least care how good/bad actions you take are. I hope you aren't considering helping this dude cheat.
What can you do?
Well, personally I would cut all contact with this dude until your feelings dissipate. Shut him down if he tries to further pursue while married as well. Don't promote cheating.2
Most Helpful Girl
I think you should do neither of those options. His wife is why he is so nice or however he behaves. taming men is a challenging task, time consuming, but it's our job. So back off and respect the boundaries2