I had a 5 year relationship but we ended it because things didn't work out and we both had a mutual agreement kind of.. about breaking up. I do not have any feelings for her whatsoever but her parents never likes me because they thought that I wasn't enough for their daughter so they were nagging to her for 5 years. I think it was cause they are very strict.
Its been 2.5 years since we broke up and I am a better person today than i was 3 4 and 5 years ago when i was in the relationship. All I want to do is go visit her parents and show them that I am good enough for anyone and that Im not so bad after all. In no way, shape or form am I trying to get back to her. I just want to show who I am to her parents without her being at the house.
Good or bad idea?
Most Helpful Girl
Bad idea. That chapter is closed. Move on. You shouldn't need to prove to her, her parents or anyone that you are sufficient. I was in kind of a similar situation with my ex. His parents hated me because I wasn't the rich, preppy white girl that they expected their son to date. The result of that was about 3 years of trying day in and day out to win their approval, only to have them slander me, slander my family, exclude me from the family, and treat me like shit. After him and I broke up I cleaned up my act and started kicking complete ass at everything. I was killing it at school and work and I was feeling really good for once. I always secretly hoped that I would run into my ex's parents so that I could give them a piece of my mind or rub my success In their faces... and I would always get upset that I never did get the chance. But then I stopped caring. They are no longer a part of my life, and even taking the time to consider what they think about me would only demonstrate that I have not yet moved on from my past. You don't want people thinking that you haven't gotten over this girl, do you? I mean just imagine it. Imagine if you took the time out of your busy day to go drive past your ex's house. You didn't actually stop by to say anything. You just casually passed through, but right as you drove past you rolled down the windows and yelled "Look at me! Am I good enough now? I'm not so bad!" Well... it sounds silly right? But that's exactly what you'd be doing if you stopped by, uninvited to basically announce the same thing. If they didn't like you to begin with, chances are they probably won't be too thrilled to see you, and they may not say it to your face, but you'd just be embarrassing yourself. Let it go. You're seeking validation from people who don't matter, cuz at the end of the day, they don't pay your bills, do they? Godspeed friend1
Most Helpful Guy
Since you said you are not going to try to get her back what difference does it makes what her parents think of you these days? It has been 2.5 years since your relationship ended with her so let all of it go. It is a waste of your time and theirs to go see them. Move on with your life.1