He broke up with me almost three weeks ago. He said he was unhappy--it was nothing I was doing, he was just really unhappy. He said he wasn't excited to see me anymore. He said he loved me, but couldn't be with me and he wanted to end it now before we hated each other so we could salvage whatever we may have left. He said he wasn't writing off us getting back together.
I dream about him every single night and it's really taking a tole on my emotional, mental, and even physical health. I am losing so much sleep, I barely eat, I'm depressed all the time.
Our relationship was very serious. We talked about getting married and we had a wedding planned, rings picked out, everything. He wanted to join the Army and then his family talked him out of it, and after that he became very closed off.
I want to talk to him and see if we could get back together. I know that I can't just jump the gun and ask him to be back with me, but I still want to talk to him and see if we could... maybe after a little bit of talking for a while, he'll realize that he wants me back, too.
Do you think it's a good idea? We haven't really spoken in about two weeks and I'm very nervous as to what his reaction will be if I try to talk to him.
And it seems to me that he stays up late to check on me. I've been up late every night to avoid sleeping because it kills me to dream about him all night long. He stays online until very early in the morning, even though he has work, and he'll sign into Facebook every five or so minutes as if to see if I'm still online.
I don't want to read too much into things, but I just want to talk to him and get him back. What should I do? I've thought about talking to him and bringing up our past inside-jokes and things, but I don't know. Things play out perfectly in my head, but I know that will never be the case.
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I had a girlfriend who I was with for 5 years.
I dumped her at least 20 times. But she would always call me a week later and say, quite literally: "I can't live without you, you are the best thing that ever happened to me. Please take me back. I'll do anything, I'll do whatever you tell me to do. I'll be your slave. I don't care if you see other women, just don't leave me."
It worked every time. I took her back. Of course, once we were back together she would stop being so sweet and start acting bitchy and taking me for granted again. So I'd dump her again, and then she'd want me back again etc...
Are you sure you really want this guy? Or do you just want him because he does not want you? That is the serious question to ask.
If you really want him, I'd say, do pretty much what my ex did. Go direct. Call and beg. Put yourself out there. Take some risks.
Playing it cool is something you do when you are flirting with a guy you just met. This is not a guy you just met, this situation calls for honesty. Making relationships work is about total honesty.
Now, I do not know your situation, so only you can judge if this is the right thing for you to do. I can only tell you that it worked on me many times.0