Me and my ex went out for a year and half. I was absolutely smitten her and I was so sure that feeling was reciprocated, she'd said even so. The whole thing was like it was meant to be. I put a lot of effort in to it, bought her flowers, took her out for meals etc, treated her like a princess, compromised, loads. I just didn’t over do it so it didn’t lose the value of the gestures.
Anyway, 2 months ago, she went out, kissed another lad. She told me straight away and I forgave her after few days.
Then, 2 weeks later, I was dumped. I got the whole, I want to stay friends stuff, and we remained in contact up until a few week ago.
Found out today, the boy she cheated on me with, she's seen him again. I don’t know how many times or what is going on there. And perhaps if it was anyone else, I wouldn’t be as bothered, but just the fact it’s him, it angers me so much. I figure this could be why she refuses to be civil or polite to me, or even meet up before we leave for summer and probably won’t see each other again.
The only other thing I know about the guy is, ‘he’s quite the player’. I feel like this whole thing is l point scoring, except she doesn't need to. Her mates are nasty about it too.
How should I react? I feel I need to explode. I feel I need to say how insulting it is. But then part of me is telling me to not react... a sh*t position.
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I will retell you how I dumbed my bfriend.
One day I woke up, and I dind't see anything in him, I didn't feel anything to him. So I decided I can't stand him anymore. So I sent him a text, that I want to meet and talk about something. I went there, I was sure I don't want him anymore. But it was really hard for me to say. I couldn't look inhis eyes and he glanced at me, I felt like I lost my tongue or what :). Then he asked me if I want to break up with him, I said yes and I felt very very guilty.
He wasn't mad or what. Everything was ok. But then I had to talk to him. I sent him a text message and an email and I was tryin to talk to him, not because I wanted him back, just cause I felt like I hurt him, I wanted to know how is he doing. No reply, no answer.
Few moths later, we started to talk to each other and we are good friends, I like him.
What I think, is that your ex is trying to skip all that phase of "feeling guilty" and she will be able to talk to you in few weeks, don't worry.
I don't believe that you will get her back, but you didn't do anything wrong.
Maybe she cheated because she though you will be mad and you will break up with her.1