because she needs her space and freedom (something she has never had) to just go out and enjoy friends because every ounce of free time she had she wanted to spend with me and not with her friends. Does it mean that it was my fault? I never told her not to hang out with her friends, whether it be guys or girls, I trusted her but she felt obligated to hang with me because of our distant relationship.
She does love me and care about me and she always will, she said so. She is just not IN-LOVE with me anymore right now and says she doesn't want to think about being in a relationship w anyone. She is going to travel and be with friend this entire summer and I know she has a crush/ likes a guy but she says and I know she has not gotten with him, I do know they have kissed and I don't think he will be an issue later on I think he was a rebound to help her prove to herself she is serious about this. I hung out with her a week ago and things were great (first time I saw her since the break up a month ago) and she told me she felt something like love for me again.
When I pushed the subject, which I shouldn't have, she told me she couldn't say those words and didn't want to lead me on. Yet, in the same breath she says I'm not in the picture right now, nor is any other guy, but I could be in the picture again down the road. Isn't that leading me on?!?!? She leaves the door open for me to believe!
I tried to reason and talk/text her out of this decision for about a month but to no luck there. 99% of the conversations were civilized and about 1% were mean and hurtful. She knew I was drunk that 1 time I said those things and I said them to help me actually move forward a bit. (she was glad I got angry at her for once) So I decided about 4 days ago to give her what she wants, space. I have had no contact with her at all and I plan on continuing to do so.
I don't care if she has sex with other people and I might have sex with other people as well, who cares its just sex. Yet, I know I want to grow old with her because she is my best friend and I enjoyed every moment over the last 4 years I had with her.
What do I do besides giving her space/time and me going out and meeting new people? She knows I am still in love with her so I don't need to prove that I need to prove I am devoted to her for the long haul and I trust and respect any and all of her decisions.
-was it my fault?
-Is there a chance for the future?
-Do you think she misses me after 4 days of no contact? ( I know I miss her!)
-What should I do over this time? I know the generic answer of meeting new people and doing fun things and working on myself, I have all that down. Yet, what can I do that will help me help get her back in my life after this summer/ fall?!?!
Side note: she said she needs to "date" other people to see other opportunities (I was her first REAL relationship) I'm fine with that because I understand that. She says if were meant to be we will be...I wish I knew now
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Is it your fault? Yes and no... You didn't know what was on her mind and what she wanted, however she was looking for something that you didn't give her or stopped giving her. You either stopped being a challange, stopped being a man in her eyes, got too clingy... Is there a chance for the future? Not if you stay "friends" with her. Does she miss you? THAT SHOULDN'T MATTER. She left you to find other men to be with and that's all you need to know. What should you do? Date other women, ASAP. She even told you that she "needs" to date other people. She wants to see what's out there that you didn't "offer" her. Don't be friends, and don't be her shoulder to cry on. Giving a woman "space" is her trying to let you down easy. In the future, don't treat a woman with respect or you will always go through things like this. She has probably met someone else and is with him already. Women always have someone else waiting for them. Would you quit a job without having another job lined up? That's how women treat men in relationships. She is not IN LOVE with you, but she wants to have her cake and eat it too by having you in her life while she meets other men, gets another boyfriend, and has a future with him... You may by thinking, "she's not like that, she's different, and she wouldn't do that to me", but I am telling you that she will, and sooner than you think. Move on, and don't look back for your sake.0