Most Helpful Girl
i saw your other post, dude stop trying to rush something with other women. self heal first. move on. she has someone. sometimes shit happens and we don't get what we want. i am going through something similar atm it sucks but if we dwell on it, it only makes us losers.
Most Helpful Guy
Ok dude, here's the lowdown. If you had something serious, long term, and you didn't do anything ugly to run her off, you have a chance, because it's likely that the new dude is just a rebound..
So, with that being said, she is probably wrapped up in new dude, and using him to forget about you. It won't work, it'll catch up sooner or later.
For the interim, make yourself the dude she fell for to begin with, lose weight, look better, and work on the reasons she left you that are in your control.
As for her, lay low, be friendly, let her know you're there, but don't hound her or you'll push her closer to new dude.
Take your time, be patient, and don't jump when she calls or messages, and wait it out, I give it three months before her new world crashes down. Of course this is given that you guys actually had something lengthy, and special that ended fairly nicely.