Last year, I was totally screwed over by a guy. He used me for emotional support and sex for a few months. He then threw me away and told me I wasn't good enough for him. I now see him with this new girl and it hurts. He is nice to her and takes her places. I had to go to counselling after him and my counsellor said he sounds like a narcissist. I was so messed up after and he seems to treat her like gold. It just stings that he treated me so poorly. How do I get over this? Why is my heart still broken over a man who was never that nice to me?
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I have been there and it felt like I would never recover. What healed me was focusing on my personal growth and connecting with like-minded people. It reminded me that the world is so much bigger than that one person who didn't appreciate me. If a person treats you like you're nothing, it's a reflection of how they feel about themself and that's their problem, NOT yours. Separate the image of who you thought he was from the person he has shown himself to actually be. The pain will be there for a while but the most important thing is to keep living and moving forward. You will find much better than him. And don't pay attention to his new relationship. He might be putting on a show right now but he's still the same person. If he isn't already, he will do the same thing to her because that is the kind of person he has chosen to be.
Also, therapy could be very helpful. Talking and getting a clearer understanding of what happened helped me get the closure I needed.0