Then he all of a sudden told me we needed to set boundaries, for a girl he "just met".. He could've set boundaries before he kissed me and flirted. He said he was trying to see if there was something he could still hold onto. And he made his decision... but kept claiming maybe in the future we'll work out. I know I shouldn't want him, but I still do. I loved him and still love him. He claims it was hard for him to let me go but I just don't believe that. He claims he still loves me but I don't believe that either... If he tried to come back in the future, I know I'd give him another chance. And I hate that I would. But why should I? I'm over here hurting while he's out with his distraction living it up. His own family says he doesn't know what he wants. How can I get over him and lose feelings for him. Fast... Please help? We're both 21 by the way.
Most Helpful Guy
I know how you feel. I'll never understand how some people can just let someone go so easily, its like they have no emotion or something. My ex left me 8 months ago and I'm still not completely over her, I think about her a lot. However she seemed to have no problems letting me go and I'm still hurt all this time later. I guess the only way to really get over it is either let time heal you or find someone else. How long were you together? If it was a long and serious relationship it may take a really long time but honestly you can't do much about it, its not like you can just forget all the special memories you have with that person.1
Most Helpful Girl
You get over him by cutting contact. Continuing to talk, flirt, etc. is not helping you to move on. You need to distance yourself from him. Don't worry about whether or not he's in a new relationship, focus on yourself right now. If you have any hobbies, spend time doing them. Stay busy and don't give yourself time to think about him or the failed relationship. Spend time with your family and friends who love you. Doing all of those things will help you move on. Ultimately though, it just takes time.2