OK I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now, and we have been close friends for 3 years. I love him.. I really do but I think I love him as a friend. I am attracted to him, he is very good looking... but I'm not sure I am in love with him. I mean, with my ex boyfriend things were so different, the way I felt for him is so different from the way I feel about my current boyfriend. Also, I think he might feel the same way... there are days that we don't even kiss, we do tell each other we love each other, and he is attracted to me.. and he gets jealous of other guys I talk to... but I'm not sure we are in love with each other. I don't want to talk to him about it because I don't want to risk hurting him... I love him...as my best friend. We have nothing in common..and well I feel attracted by other guys.. this never happened with my last boyfriend.. with my last boyfriend of 2 years I never had a single doubt, and for one year out of those two it was a long distance relationship! This may be the problem too.. I don't think I'm totally over him. I don't know what to do ... HELP!
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ok similar situation I went through... this girl at the time I only was in a relationship for a few months and our love grew very fast...we went to seperate colleges and distance was hard. one night she got drunk and kissed another guy. she DID tell me about it because she felt horrible. When she told me I actually tried to break up with her lol but she held onto me for dear life and wouldn't let me leave the room! after I got her off me finally I got out the room and was in her dorm hall way and I was just thinking to myself it was just a kiss! I sat in her hall just thinking am I really about to walk out on a girl who loves me and cares and who I love also because of a kiss! well to end the story I walked back in the room and scarred the sh*t outta her and said if she ever did anything like that again I would never talk to her and blah blah blah...we had a 4 year relationship and a happy one too after that incident and just broke up about a month and a half ago...break up had nothing to do with cheating it was just time to do our own thing for awhile and maybe we will get back together one day the door is still open for that possibilty...but you need to be honest and take whatever comes your way, if he finds out some other way he will never trust you again but if you tell him yourself there is a chance that trust could be restored1