even after dating the current Girlfriend seriously, would you ever break up to go back to an ex? If so, why did you get into another relationship if you had feelings for the ex? Is this normal for guys, to date someone else when they still have feelings for another?
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It depends on the reasons.
Relationships aren't just one-dimentional.
It's not just lovey-dovey.
Emotions and feelings aside, you have to look at the big picture with a holistic approach.
If he's not happy with PARTS or the relationship, then he's NOT HAPPY with the relationship.
And if there's someone who he can be more happy with, he'll leave the less content or satisfied situation he's in, to go to the one where he's more happy.
Want an example?
You have no idea why him and his ex broke up. Maybe she quit her job and vowed to never work a day of her life again, while expecting him to provide for her while she "takes care of the home & kids". Maybe they weren't having sex that often. Maybe he wasn't sexually satisfied with her. Maybe he loved her, and the emotions and feelings were strong, but she didn't care about him, appreciate him, respect him, was dishonest, manipulative, selfish and/or controlling.
You have no idea why he reached a point where he told himself "f-ck this.. I'm out"
So maybe with you, he felt good initially because you offered him what he felt he was escaping from; and longing to find.
But clearly, now that he's re-assessed the situation, he's made the determination that he's happier with her than with where he was.
Why? Who knows? Who cares?
Maybe she finished medical school & is a doctor pulling six-figures now. Maybe she found her long-lost sex drive. Maybe she suddenly developed a sense of style, and takes care of her appearance in such a way that she constantly keeps him sexually excited & interested. Maybe she got over whatever psychological, personality or emotional issues she had, and their emotional relationship is now bullet-proof.
You have no idea why he went back to her.
But it definitely has nothing to do with YOU. It's something that's outside of your control. So it's not something that you should even worry about. It's stupid to worry about things that are outside of your control. Even more stupid to try and believe you can find ways to make them within your control.
It's something that has to do with only him and her.
He made up his mind, and it wasn't you.
Swallow that pill, get the side-effect out of your system, forget him, move on, and find someone else who is happiest with you.2